“Resolution” is a Four Letter Word

“It is more important to be of pure intention than of perfect action.” – Ilyas Kassam

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Happy New Year!

I decided not to make resolutions this year, because if I don’t keep them it feels a bit too much like the “F” word: Failure.  Making a resolution implies there is something wrong in me that needs to be fixed.  Typical New Year’s resolutions tend to address what boils down to addictive behavior: overeating, overdrinking, over reliance on electronic devices.  So often (always?) addictive behaviors are used to avoid something deep within us: frustration, regret, fear, fear, fear.  Did I mention fear?

Fear is a huge stumbling block for me.  To illustrate, lately, I’ve been working on changing my habits around organizing at work and home.  It’s easy to believe I’m just a scatter-brained person who’s not inherently “organized.”  But when I looked deeper, my aversion to organizing my desk, making lists and checking them off, signal fear – fear of what will happen if I get organized enough to accomplish big things, fear of success.

So this year I’m setting intentions about the kind of behavior I’d like to encourage in myself, and one very important one is keeping in touch with YOU.  I’ve neglected you, not because you’re not important, but because you’re SO important I worry (fear) that what I write to you won’t be clever enough, well researched enough, relevant enough, witty enough.  Enough, enough, enough!

I’ve been limiting myself to perfection!  Can you relate?  The truth is, if you limit yourself to perfection, there’s absolutely no chance of success, and my 2013 blog posting was a perfect (!) example of that.  In 2014 I intend to write to you each week on this blog.  I intend to offer information, tips and recipes each week that will make your life better right now.  I will tell myself that I am the kind of person who keeps in touch with friends, family and followers.  But I won’t do it perfectly, which is perfect.

One topic I’ve become very interested in is brain health.  There are so many simple things we can do, and not do, that can keep our aging brains (they’re all aging, no matter what our age) on the job without the weight of depression, brain fog, headaches and the specter of dementia or other degenerative neurological conditions.  2014 is the Year of the Brain over here at Blue Raven Wellness.

It’s the second week of the New Year.  The decorations are put away and the cookies are eaten. (And if they’re not, what do you intend to do with them?)  Instead of resolutions, write down three intentions aimed at achieving the kind of behavior you’d like to encourage for yourself.  If one of them is to eat better or lose weight, give me a shout and let’s talk.  If you’re in the Portland area, consider attending this workshop I’m co-teaching with Morgan Oxley, expert hypnotist and habit change specialist, this Saturday.  It’s a great way to make intentions into reality.

One response to ““Resolution” is a Four Letter Word

  1. Looking forward to hearing more from you in the new year! Also interested in articles on brain health. :)

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